Attention Is a Need, Not Always Love

Amara had always loved being seen.
Not for her beauty — though she had that — but for the warmth that came with being noticed. The messages that came in the morning, the random calls, the “I miss you” texts from people who barely knew her. It made her feel alive. Wanted. Important.

She told herself it was love.
After all, love was supposed to make you feel wanted, right?

But it never lasted.
The same people who showered her with words faded when she stopped replying fast. The same hands that reached out stopped when she didn’t give enough energy back. She began to see a pattern — every burst of attention felt like sunlight, but when it was gone, it left her cold again.

One evening, sitting by her window, she realized the truth:
She wasn’t looking for love — she was craving attention.
Love was patient, but attention was greedy. Love stayed when you were quiet, but attention needed you to perform.

The next time someone said, “You’ve been quiet lately,” she smiled and replied,
“I’ve just been busy giving myself the attention I’ve been begging for.”

Because sometimes, what we mistake for love is just the hunger to be seen.
And once that hunger fades, we finally understand — attention is a need, but it’s not love.

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